The Surgical Option

Cut it out

Let’s cut that out

“First you adjust, then you re-adjust, and then you mal-adjust.” That is a popular expression among people who are navigating life with dysfunctional families. This expression applies to physical ailments as well.
My husband recently had surgery. He was scheduled to receive a stent and instead came out with three. The surgeon was great, the hospital was wonderful, the staff were caring and professional at all times. Which is not easy when you are working with a bunch of people who are in pain from recent incisions.
In this particular case, the initial surgery was to correct an aneurysm. And we all know what happens when an aneurysm is untreated. But frequently we let problems fester too long.
Sometimes we would do well to treat a life problem like something that needs to be excised. When it’s life, though, no one gives you a general anesthetic to see you through. You are fully conscious from beginning to end. It is tempting to endure the pain you know rather than risk the pain you cannot predict. But certain people and situations often need to be surgically removed or we will never be free of their effects: your spouse with whom you haven’t been able to get along for the past several years no matter how hard both of you try, that job that you can’t quite seem to leave despite having better options, the club meetings you keep going to even though you hate them (maybe you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings), the person you have thought of as a friend since high school who hasn’t had a kind word for you since then…
You could think of it like housecleaning, getting rid of the clutter. Many situations, however, are so much more difficult to clean up that it truly feels like surgery. You don’t want to face it because you know it can leave you scarred. And it will leave you different, better in some ways and worse in others. If you are paying attention, it will also leave you wiser. And that is always a good thing.

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