The Good, The Bad, & The Cycle
Violence Wheel
This wheel helps link the different behaviors that together form a pattern of violence. It shows the relationship as a whole – and how each seemingly unrelated behavior is an important part in an overall effort to control someone.
Adapted from the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project – Duluth, Minnesota
Cycle of Domestic Violence
Battering is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, isolation, etc., to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but it remains as a hidden (and constant) terrorizing factor (Common Purpose, Inc. Jamaica Plain, MA).![]() |
TENSION-BUILDING
criticism,yelling,swearing,using angry gestures, coercion, threats VIOLENCE physical and sexual attacks and threats SEDUCTION apologies, blaming, promises to change, gifts LOVE / HOPE / FEAR These three dynamics keep the cycle in motion and make it hard to end a violent relationship. Love for your partner, the relationship has its good points, it’s not all bad Hope that it will change, the relationship didn’t begin like this Fear that the threats to kill you or your family will become a reality |
Adapted from Dr. Lenore Walker’s “Cycle of Violence” – Denver, Colorado
Non-Violence Wheel
The Non-Violence Wheel offers a view of a relationship that is based on equality and non-violence. Use this chart to compare the characteristics of a non-violent relationship to those of an abusive relationship (see Violence Wheel above). The Non-Violence Wheel is also helpful in setting goals and boundaries in personal relationships.
Adapted from the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project – Duluth, Minnesota
Click on “Domestic Violence: The Facts” for an information handbook (.pdf) created by Peace at Home.