I am sorry you have felt humiliated by the media attention to your husband’s violence toward you. Hopefully, you will come to learn that no one can shame you: They can shame only themselves.
When it comes to the thought of leaving someone you have only recently married and with whom you have a child: He can likely convince you that the courts will grant him full custody and leave you unable to protect your child. According to Lundy Bancroft, abusive fathers do petition for custody at twice the rate of non-abusive fathers. An excellent attorney is essential to protecting your interests.
What message is your highly-publicized abuse giving to others? The media is loving that this story has so much traction. Others who are currently being victimized (this includes some men–and not all abuse is in traditional male-female relationships) are watching your case to assess if they can safely leave. Some are still deciding, balancing the good with the bad. They, and you, need to realize that absent a minimum of a year’s participation in a program designed specifically for domestic abusers, the bad will only get worse. (I am not referring to Anger Management programs. An abuser’s anger is perfectly managed, and directed laser-like at the victim.) It ends in death with alarming frequency.
Maybe your protests to the media indicate simple posturing in order to keep yourself alive; it would make perfect sense.
If a man is strong enough to play professional football, surely he knows his hands are potentially lethal weapons. It puzzles me that prosecutors seem to have made no mention of this.
The most dangerous time for a victim is in the act of leaving. I would never wish for you to leave without an airtight plan, for your safety and that of your child. You can’t just grab your things and go. That is way too risky.
Your being well-known will not prevent your local shelter from hearing your story and working with you. Or maybe you have a different way out.
If you don’t take some self-protective action, I worry that you could turn into the next Kasandra Perkins. Remember Kansas City Chiefs Linebacker Jovan Belcher’s girlfriend who was shot in front of their 3-month-old child before he turned the gun on himself? Please, do not let that be you.